tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post3265735206122846509..comments2023-10-09T23:04:29.549+11:00Comments on The Shifty Shadow: The Korean Bathhouse.Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11890663570732346315noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-90367706594692669652009-04-23T04:55:00.000+10:002009-04-23T04:55:00.000+10:00Thanks for your comments. As you saw, I had alread...Thanks for your comments. As you saw, I had already linked back to you. I must tell you how much you have helped me on my IF journey. You are a truly incredible woman with a gift for words. I often find myself nodding along in agreement while reading and it is such a huge relief to finally have someone be able to express the things I would like to say.<br /><br />What an odd world this is where I feel so close to people I've never even spoken to (until now). My husband came home while I was reading your post on 3/16 and asked why I was crying. I said that my friend is having a tough time... I've been thinking of you a lot these past two weeks and hoping that you are starting to move out of that horrible immobilized grief shadow.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05466722859869773647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-9248653996390585412009-04-15T23:55:00.000+10:002009-04-15T23:55:00.000+10:00p.s. I know you said you'd be away for my beta...t...p.s. I know you said you'd be away for my beta...thank you for the luck! I sho need it!<br /><br />take care mate<br /><br />xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-48639878839827525482009-04-15T23:05:00.000+10:002009-04-15T23:05:00.000+10:00B - how are you holding up? The grief in this post...B - how are you holding up? The grief in this post was terrifying but so familiar, like a comfortably cold hand in my chest. I'm thinking of you. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-31925463632821453672009-04-14T21:47:00.000+10:002009-04-14T21:47:00.000+10:00I can only agree with the many other comments that...I can only agree with the many other comments that came before me, about the rawness of your post, the depth of grief it touches. Finding that core of pain. The layers of loss-related grief continue to be shed, over the years, like an onion being peeled. But do we let go of the last tiny kernel? I am yet to find the solid, grounded, unwavering sense of peace I think might come with that. I hope it is possible for all of us, someday. Soon.Panamahathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10248512242594265755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-21848632774053362672009-04-12T01:35:00.000+10:002009-04-12T01:35:00.000+10:00Your post is so vivid, so real. I am so sorry for ...Your post is so vivid, so real. I am so sorry for your losses, and hope you find some way to break through to heal, in time.tonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16833358728527455795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-44417290148328520992009-04-09T02:01:00.000+10:002009-04-09T02:01:00.000+10:00My heart breaks for you. I'm so, so sorry.My heart breaks for you. I'm so, so sorry.jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00967156307632862683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-2780905999403175672009-04-09T01:41:00.000+10:002009-04-09T01:41:00.000+10:00Hi B, not sure if you got my email response to you...Hi B, not sure if you got my email response to your "how are you" which was a lame "Hi mate... not too shabby. Too early to tell and trying to be realistic. Off to rainbow beach tomorrow bright and early for camping, with family. oh joy. I've packed a ton of books for that antisocial effect :)"<BR/> <BR/>How are you doing? I'm thinking of you, wondering if your cycle grief has come full circle like it does with me most times. If only we could control whether we'd get there or not... such a cliche but a crystal ball would be a good start... xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-59914104687342111272009-04-07T05:52:00.000+10:002009-04-07T05:52:00.000+10:00Such a beautiful and heartbreaking post. I am with...Such a beautiful and heartbreaking post. I am with you in spirit and sitting with you in your grief.Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-71599788434049527142009-04-06T23:36:00.000+10:002009-04-06T23:36:00.000+10:00How many times Peter has seen me, stuck in bed, im...How many times Peter has seen me, stuck in bed, immobile... Or worse, having a complete and utter fit, screaming, sobbing... In the last 14 months... I cant count them. It is hard for them, to not know how to help us.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad that you felt Maya with you. Sometimes that is the only thing that saves me, that feeling of them descending into my arms... That warmth... Their smells... It's so perfect and right.<BR/><BR/>I cried reading your post. Sometimes you give words to my own grief in a truth that I cant give myself. I'm thinking of you and Maya today, and hoping that you feel your little girl with you, and that she makes some of the unbearable bearable again.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-3333286646179503382009-04-06T14:24:00.000+10:002009-04-06T14:24:00.000+10:00B. B. B. I am holding your loving, feeling, beatin...B. B. B. I am holding your loving, feeling, beating, hurting heart in my heart.<BR/><BR/>{{{{{{B}}}}}}}}}Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-77509239506804474232009-04-06T04:24:00.000+10:002009-04-06T04:24:00.000+10:00this so is heartbreakingly gorgeous in its eloquen...this so is heartbreakingly gorgeous in its eloquence. <BR/>I think mrs. spit is right. the only way out is through, and you're in it. <BR/><BR/>sounds to me as if you had a very cleansing experience. I believe it will be a critical part of your healing process. even if you can't feel it now. <BR/><BR/>sending you love from across the pacific, and abiding with you.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-77183270124026317662009-04-06T01:06:00.000+10:002009-04-06T01:06:00.000+10:00B, I am chilled to the core with reading this post...B, I am chilled to the core with reading this post, it is just so unfair. I wish Maya was here with you, I understand when you say how you remember every aspect of her, we will never forget, to the point where we almost feel them.<BR/>Much love to you dear, I am so so so sorry. I wish I could fix all of this. <BR/>I am so glad that your husband was able to hold you, when you needed him most.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-81416678488063673512009-04-06T00:33:00.000+10:002009-04-06T00:33:00.000+10:00Your post brought me to tears that I desperately n...Your post brought me to tears that I desperately needed to shed.Phoebehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07668069274859889749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-42149907368177154772009-04-05T22:04:00.000+10:002009-04-05T22:04:00.000+10:00Sending hugs, and hope, your way.Sending hugs, and hope, your way.Virginiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07965042538225388563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-10635448953185844402009-04-05T19:13:00.000+10:002009-04-05T19:13:00.000+10:00That state of catatonia...I know it well, unfortun...That state of catatonia...I know it well, unfortunately. You're absolutely right, no one can save us from that state but ourselves. ... I'm hoping so bad that "I think this might be the tipping point. The beginning of the end" refers to grieving and letting go of this cycle and moving forward to the next plan.<BR/><BR/>Sending you some hugs. Because I'm not sure I could comfort in any other way. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-1609391857884450182009-04-05T13:11:00.000+10:002009-04-05T13:11:00.000+10:00The emotion contained in this post made me sit wit...The emotion contained in this post made me sit with it for a while...you've captured the intensity of grief with such rawness that I could feel the coldness and nakedness and the numbness. <BR/><BR/>You have to feel such intensity, to fully surrender to the grief in order to find a way back out.Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-91817963687278640982009-04-05T12:01:00.000+10:002009-04-05T12:01:00.000+10:00Oh B! What amazing feeling...and emotion. It pai...Oh B! What amazing feeling...and emotion. It pains me to read, and yet I understand. I know that deep, dark place that I stick everything. I don't let it out, and try not to let DH see it either.<BR/>I'm so very sorry that this is overwhelming. I wish that none of us had to go through this. I wish that it was all easier. I wish you had Maya in your arms now. So, very, sorry.mrsmuellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270030590565650295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-43305832238926058312009-04-05T10:58:00.000+10:002009-04-05T10:58:00.000+10:00I think so Mrs Spit. If we are to truly honour thi...I think so Mrs Spit. If we are to truly honour this journey.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11890663570732346315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-22113208120899854972009-04-05T10:28:00.000+10:002009-04-05T10:28:00.000+10:00I wonder if we have to get to the beginning of the...I wonder if we have to get to the beginning of the end, to get to the beginning again? <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry B. Sending hugs and wishes for comfort.Mrs. Spithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386820063407910064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-22061122705006576762009-04-05T08:56:00.000+10:002009-04-05T08:56:00.000+10:00I a not sure really what to say other than this po...I a not sure really what to say other than this powerful post of grief hit me right to the core, as though you are describing that horrific feeling all deadbaby mamas must bear.<BR/><BR/>I wish I could make it better for you. Know that you are not alone and that I am sitting with you as you grieve.Lisa DGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02134785866812104866noreply@blogger.com