tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post4522888846914665342..comments2023-10-09T23:04:29.549+11:00Comments on The Shifty Shadow: Infertility and fertile friendsBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11890663570732346315noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-71379296856671570642016-08-19T17:56:59.821+10:002016-08-19T17:56:59.821+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10170952838188562342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-40802870144425547872012-09-14T04:32:43.812+10:002012-09-14T04:32:43.812+10:00I have been doing so much research on how to get p...I have been doing so much research on how to get pregnant with ovarian cysts and without the money for ivf. What really upsets me is when my close friend complains about having a 7-month-old and being 5 months pregnant. Then IF she notices how upset I am, she carries on about how sorry she is and how she can're imagine what I must be going through. Did I forget to mention she has 2 other children? One is 8 and the other is 4.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-48916981541072519362011-05-25T20:13:54.782+10:002011-05-25T20:13:54.782+10:00By the way, a couple that has tried unsuccessfully...By the way, a couple that has tried unsuccessfully to have a child for a year or more is said to be subfertile meaning less fertile than a typical couple.custom paper writinghttp://writing-services.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-44004476114697990982011-05-24T19:47:04.041+10:002011-05-24T19:47:04.041+10:00It seems to me that most fertility medication are ...It seems to me that most fertility medication are agents that stimulate the development of follicles in the ovarycustom essay paperhttp://custom-writing.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-86667102847714379782011-05-14T07:15:29.589+10:002011-05-14T07:15:29.589+10:00Having read this material, I have learned for myse...Having read this material, I have learned for myself a lot of the new. Thankscollege boardhttp://www.collegeboard.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-3658887817241751362010-01-26T11:28:52.788+11:002010-01-26T11:28:52.788+11:00It is extremely interesting for me to read that ar...It is extremely interesting for me to read that article. Thank you for it. I like such topics and everything that is connected to them. BTW, why don't you change design :).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-90694658589456226932010-01-02T16:12:01.015+11:002010-01-02T16:12:01.015+11:00It was very interesting for me to read the blog. T...It was very interesting for me to read the blog. Thank author for it. I like such topics and anything that is connected to them. I definitely want to read more on that blog soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-28405308713199218552009-12-27T00:42:04.654+11:002009-12-27T00:42:04.654+11:00Cool article as for me. 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I have been in a similar situation with some of my fertile friends. Some of them being the "why don't you have children" type. It is hard to feel awkward amongst friends (and even family sometimes) because of the void caused by loss and infertility. I have recently started to feel this also. I don't know where to turn to find new people to hang out with either. Good Luck in trying to figure out what to do with the void in your friendships.Kathy Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658449843683175580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-38747368584105348392008-01-04T04:34:00.000+11:002008-01-04T04:34:00.000+11:00Here via CDLC and bookmarking this post because it...Here via CDLC and bookmarking this post because it's among the best I've ever read. I'm so sorry for your loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-7805378513067890022008-01-03T12:52:00.000+11:002008-01-03T12:52:00.000+11:00Came over from the creme and your post made me cry...Came over from the creme and your post made me cry. I am SO sorry for the loss of your daughter, and the pain you have felt. I wish you peace.Cabahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08164597797727112635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-8496089557190615052008-01-02T13:23:00.000+11:002008-01-02T13:23:00.000+11:00Also here from Creme to say that I found your post...Also here from Creme to say that I found your post very moving and I am so, so sorry for your loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-83384368392299733592008-01-02T08:27:00.000+11:002008-01-02T08:27:00.000+11:00came over from la creme of 2007 and just wanted to...came over from la creme of 2007 and just wanted to say I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. this post is so beautiful in its clarity and in the way you so accurately capture the reality of friendships during infertility and after such a sad loss. I lost my only baby at just 21 wks and though I never got to hold him I still feel the same feelings, those comparisons, the gap between my life and theirs. the inability to see anything except as a measure of what I have lost. thank you for expressing this so beautifully. ~lunaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-13311852111319994892007-10-10T08:52:00.000+10:002007-10-10T08:52:00.000+10:00thanks for this post. I absolutely feel the same. ...thanks for this post. I absolutely feel the same. The loneliness is the worst part. Every pregnancy, every birthday and baptism, only reminds me of what I lost and don't have.hopeful mommy-in-waitinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12925728705933494059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-65361416970208509632007-08-17T12:51:00.000+10:002007-08-17T12:51:00.000+10:00I found your post through Irish Girl. You've cert...I found your post through Irish Girl. You've certainly hit the nail on the head - I am in the middle of some of my relationships being torn apart because of this, but I feel powerless to stop it. (And I'm feeling a LOT of what sharah was commenting on!!).<BR/><BR/>Glad to hear you are scheduling your next "round." Sending up prayers for you.rawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00044659312939196591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-91579944065587017712007-08-14T12:42:00.000+10:002007-08-14T12:42:00.000+10:00I found you through Mel also and this post brought...I found you through Mel also and this post brought me to tears. I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter, and for all you've gone through since her birth. I've been lucky enough to join the moms of the world and yet infertility leaves its scars so deeply that I never feel as though I'm fully one of them.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04077459860855798660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-62568815383753369162007-08-13T12:49:00.000+10:002007-08-13T12:49:00.000+10:00I found you through Mel and this post has me in te...I found you through Mel and this post has me in tears. I'm so sorry for your loss and your continuing struggle. <BR/><BR/>We've been trying for over 2.5 yrs and need IVF but are stalling for financial reasons. In the meantime my brothers and Dh's sisters have had eight pregnancies, resulting in 5 children so far. <BR/>My older brother and his wife have one planned, one oops with another oops on the way. That, combined with our IF, has almost ruined our relationship. His life, with his children, is a painful daily reminder of what is missing from mine.<BR/><BR/>You touched a white hot nerve.SarahSewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16942500174012557069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-89689321159287353452007-08-13T12:24:00.000+10:002007-08-13T12:24:00.000+10:00Just found you now ... I'm sorry you had to endure...Just found you now ... I'm sorry you had to endure such pain. Thank you for writing what I've thought so many times. The friends issue is a big one.Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-41117331958962778052007-08-13T12:08:00.000+10:002007-08-13T12:08:00.000+10:00Thank you for writing this, B. It so eloquently ca...Thank you for writing this, B. It so eloquently captures how I feel around the pregnant and the fertile, and why I've let a number of very old friendships lapse these past few years. It's just way too hard and way too awkward for everyone. And it uses up too much energy to pretend to be OK, when all I can see is the "deep blackness in my image" when I look at them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-11018253443824161062007-08-13T02:25:00.000+10:002007-08-13T02:25:00.000+10:00I just wanted to say that this is a beautiful post...I just wanted to say that this is a beautiful post, and it captures so many emotions related to the void of not having a child. <BR/><BR/>You are a true example of resiliency, and I hope you find peace. <BR/><BR/>I would like to add you to my blog list to continue reading your thoughts are experience.Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13106036194597521340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-36519579699790962092007-08-12T20:45:00.000+10:002007-08-12T20:45:00.000+10:00What a powerful post. I'm sitting here with tears ...What a powerful post. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. <BR/>It resonates so clearly. I feel like I'm in so much pain all the time that no one else's (the fertiles) can compare.<BR/>I know logically it isn't true, everyone has their own problems, but I FEEL SO RAW all the time, that sometimes I just want to scream.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150585209390355119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-68928420605762178162007-08-12T08:13:00.000+10:002007-08-12T08:13:00.000+10:00This post really means something to me. As I sit ...This post really means something to me. As I sit here and comment, I am waiting to go out to dinner with girlfriends. Two of whom will give birth in the next month, two of whom aren't even dating anyone. Leaving me. Alone. In the middle.<BR/><BR/>It is painful, and alienating, and I can only pretend around them.LJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08398924875071245573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-20398908123094269982007-08-12T06:24:00.000+10:002007-08-12T06:24:00.000+10:00This post is a glimpse of where I will be in a few...This post is a glimpse of where I will be in a few weeks. For i am the last one in my circle of friends that does not have a child or positive pregnancy story now. I am afraid that my pain and just life itself will tear us apart - for I am now left behind. I am so sorry beyond words that you are having to experience all of these truly raw and rough emotions. I do hope that you will find some sort of support from the online community! Blessings FarahAwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4000274955591307998.post-30469500030566406602007-08-12T00:23:00.000+10:002007-08-12T00:23:00.000+10:00This is a powerful post that brings to mind a frie...This is a powerful post that brings to mind a friendship I've let lapse simply because her pregnancy succeeded where mine did not. Her family grew later with an oops baby while we had to face the brutal reality that my body couldn't carry a child. I tried to put my best foot forward but watching her breast feed eight months ago nearly sent me around the bend and I told her I couldn't see her while she was still nursing. I feel guilty but only to a point. Thanks for capturing so well what's in my head.Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.com